“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
— Maya Angelou
Two weeks ago my stepmother died. For 42 years she was my dad’s partner. And while we had our battles, they were there for each other through thick and thin. For me, it was a lot of thick - rocky roads, to say the least.
When I was 11, they got married. The road wasn’t easy, in fact it was life changing - or should I say - “life challenging!” My stepmother was quite a woman. She was a couture dress designer and always dressed to the nines. She was charming. She was a strong business woman who seemed to have it all under control. She was so beautiful and fancy to me when we met. She swept my dad off his feet, and for a few years, I was swept away too.
Somewhere down the road, the road got rocky. I was a head-strong kid. For those of you who know me, not much has changed! I recently asked my dad to describe me as a child. He said,...
Have you ever been in a situation where someone else was promoted or chosen for a project when you felt your work warranted you being picked? Recently one of my coachees was feeling frustrated about being passed over for a promotion. “I guess I should just trust the process, right?”, she said to me. “A promotion will eventually happen when it’s the right time.”
When we finished our session, I reflected on her statement. I’ve heard this phrase “trust the process” numerous times! It’s even become a mantra for many. What does it really mean to trust the process? Does it mean we don’t get curious and ask questions? Does it mean we exercise patience and wait for things to happen for us? Are we even using this overused term in the right way?
I decided to research the origins of this phrase. It originated in the sports world. The phrase was coined by the Philadelphia 76er’s former general manager, Sam Hinkie. Hinkie...
When I sit down to write the blog, nothing! I get up and move on to something else. A few hours later, I sit down to write, and get distracted by emails, and the next thing I know, it’s been an hour and now I have a meeting. I sit down to write, turn on some music specifically for focusing, and I can’t think. Thank goodness the phone rings and I can shift my attention. Saved from having to have something profound to say!
You know when you have so much on your mind and nothing on your mind? Or when you have so much to do and when you sit down to do it, you can’t remember what you have to do? More is not better when it comes to our minds. Overwhelm can cause much more than writer’s block.
The bottom line is that this is normal. And it seems that it’s now more than ever. Just look at all the articles published constantly on stress - Forbes, Harvard Business Review, American Psychological Association, and the list continues. Attempting to...
Conscious Culture - How Connect to Create Competitive Differentiation
Adrianne Court & Kim Zoller
As we enter the post-pandemic season within the backdrop of great political divides, war in Eastern Europe, looming economic uncertainties, and threats of other diseases of epidemic proportions, business leaders are facing a myriad of unprecedented business challenges. One that many are grappling with is how to create connections within their teams and employees to successfully work together.
Many organizations began with attempts to address the “how we connect to work together” dilemma in very tactical ways as the world emerged from the pandemic. Identifying what to do about work location was top of mind for most and is an ongoing discourse. Should it be a remote, in-person, hybrid, or other blended work arrangement, with the goal of expanding the talent pool by hiring in other cities, regions, or countries, or compressing into specific hub...
“Leadership is not a whole! It’s one person at a time, caring about one person at a time!”
“Stop The Quitting - Create A Conscious Culture!” That was the title of a session I presented on a live stage with live people! If you look at many business publications this week you’ll see that “leaders are surprised” by all this quiet quitting. Worse yet, leaders are surprised by the increased number of suicides by their employees and the numbers of mental health cases.
When you’re in the jar, you cannot read the label. Being on the outside of all these companies and working with all levels of leadership, it is apparent. The label is big, bright and in all caps!
As we all know, we live in a world now where splitting the professional life from the person no longer applies. I was sitting with a new business colleague this week and she was telling me about how the leaders in her life have changed the trajectory of...
“It takes each of us to make a difference for all of us.” — Jackie Mutcheson
Today more than ever - culture, purpose, values - KINDNESS - are critical. As the research shows, people are quitting because they don’t feel valued, respected and known.
Capgemini, a client of ours, invests heavily in their leaders and we have been lucky enough to be a part of their leadership development for about 20 years. Over 10 years ago I was in Paris leading a leadership cohort with the most outstanding people. Every morning I would go running and so did this incredible woman, Tess Eriksson. And this is how Tess and I became friends for life! Tess has been getting her PhD and one of her focuses is “Kindness in Business.”
Tess has written a number of published articles and we would like you to have the opportunity to hear from her! Please enjoy and comment and engage with Tess.
Tess (Theresa) Eriksson is now the Senior Vice President of Operations...
“Fall in love with the process, the results will come.” - Eric Thomas
We all have goals. Whether they’re big, small, personal, professional. When we have a goal for ourselves, it can be easy to lock in and only focus on the end result. It feels as though anything before reaching that end point is “not good enough.” We can be so hard on ourselves during the entire process, beating ourselves up until we finally reach that desired goal.
The truth is, if you want to become significantly better at something, it is critical to fall in love with the process. You don’t have to struggle to reach success. Instead, you can choose to come back to a growth mindset and look at all the things you’re doing to get closer to your goal every day! And that deserves some recognition and praise.
“It’s the everyday consistent steps that get us to our goals!”
Do you want to be a great leader in all areas of your life?
That goal isn’t...
“All big things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision.”
- James Clear (From the Book Atomic Habits)
We have the power to build ourselves into anything we want to - into the person we want to be. Many times, what holds us back from making changes and creating new habits is the false-belief that you have to make huge changes in order to see results.
Our mind is incredibly powerful. If you think it, you will create it.
For example, If you say “I’m lazy” or “I’m tired” all the time, guess what - your actions are going to reflect being lazy and tired. If you want to change the outside, you first have to change the inside. Become aware of what thoughts you choose to focus on, knowing that what you think influences how you feel, which influences how you behave and influences how you show up every day in life.
Sometimes we think we can only make true impactful changes through big moves. And so if we are...
During a coaching session this week, I asked my coachee if he could define his roles and responsibilities for me and he responded “no, not really. I just kind of do what is asked of me.” Initially, I thought that was very humble, but then soon recognized that this was truly a challenge for him. He couldn’t articulate his worth to himself and ultimately to others.
His statement got me thinking. On the one hand, the fluidity of his role had allowed him the license for creativity and gave him the opportunity to move from one responsibility to another. He had no job description and had never even submitted a resume. He had an ever-evolving role with lots of moving parts and little definition. On the other hand, he couldn’t truly describe his skills, the value he brings or his accomplishments. Ultimately, that left him not knowing or feeling his worth.
Many of us don’t like the idea of labels. Some of us don’t even like the concept of a job title or...
“People work for money but go the extra mile for recognition, praise and rewards.”
- Dale Carnegie
Is your company struggling to retain employees? It’s time to reflect and make sure you are recognizing and connecting with your people!
The Great Resignation - the record number of people that either weren’t satisfied with their work environment, their industry, or their work-life balance and left their jobs. I’d like to look at this from a different lens, as the Great Recognition. People stay in their jobs when they feel valued and are appreciated for their hard work. If they don’t, they’ll leave and always chase the dollar to the next company. Once they’re in that new position, and are still not appreciated or feel valued, they move on again.
A Gallup study shared that only 1 in 4 employees strongly agrees that they feel connected to their culture and only 1 in 3 strongly agree that they belong at their organization. Now more than...